Last July, we had the chance to interview the relationship coach Tony Gaskins in Montreal. He shared some of his best inspirational advices during his Real Love Tour conference that took place at Hotel Bonaventure. An event organized by Gold Diva Events.
We asked relationship expert Tony Gaskins to share some words of wisdom on the topic with us.
Being single is a great time to prepare for your next relationship. It gives you time to reflect on what you want to give and receive in your ideal partnership. You can think back about your exes and figure out what qualities you’d like to find in your next partner. It’s the time to become the type of person you want to attract.
Perhaps you are thinking to yourself: “I’m pretty, I have a good job, I’m ambitious… Why am I still single?”
Tony Gaskins ( T.G. ) : A lot of times, single women have an idea of a man, he may be 6 feet tall, he may make a certain amount of money, he may have a certain look, or a certain style […] So the answer is that a lot of the times you don’t want who wants you. But the person who wants you may not be the right height, may not be the right weight, may not have the right job… It’s really small things that don’t matter in the grander scheme of love that blocks us.
You’ve probably heard it hundreds of times before, we don’t attract what we want but what we need. How does that work?
T.G.: If you become Mrs Right you attract Mister Right. [As he mentioned in his book “Mrs. Right: A Woman’s Guide to Becoming and Remaining a Wife“ it’s all about self respect, real love, purity[…] Heal before you deal is the key here. Fix yourself first. Unpack your baggage, don’t go into a relationship expecting a man to work [your] baggage claim. Heal from the daddy wounds, from the mommy wounds. Take time and learn what real love is, what a real relationship is.*
Finally, are you curious to find out how do you prepare to become one of the parts of a greater sum?
T.G.: The best way is to really understand what you are looking for and why you are looking for it. That’s the breakdown[…] A lot of time what we desire is somebody who will approve us, someone who will make us feel like we are worthy. But it’s not necessarily who we need. What we want isn’t always what we need. And if we understand what we need, we may realize that we are already in that place to attract what we need. It comes down to really knowing yourself and what you want in a relationship and the reason why you want those things.
In the end, it all about knowing yourself, fixing yourself, and understanding your motives. Adjust your lenses and the right partner will come along. Wise words, Mr. Gaskins.
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